This book is designed to help teens successfully negotiate the many difficulties they face as they grow up.

This book is designed to help teens successfully negotiate the many difficulties they face as they grow up.

In The Seven Worst Things Good Parents Do, therapists John and Linda Friel gave parents an easy-to-understand guide to overcome the seven worst mistakes even good parents make while raising children. Now they've written a book for teens based on the same formula: it includes the seven worst things even smart-and outwardly successful-teens do, and shows teens how they can change these behaviors and assure their success in life as they grow towards adulthood. This book was written expressly for teenagers as a unique roadmap into adulthood. It was designed to stimulate the brain as well as the heart because teenagers who listen to both can eventually negotiate adolescence successfully. It will appeal to teenagers who like to think, wonder, question and challenge, as well as to teenagers who feel that they haven't quite figured out this "life" thing. The Friels show teens the seven things they need to do in order to overcome common roadblocks they face or will face. These are: Become competent-don't expect to have self-esteem without becoming competent Master your feelings-don't let your feelings run the show Break the silence-don't silently scream instead of making yourself known Get healthy power-don't avoid learning about power Face the serious stuff-don't hide the really important things you're experiencing Find an identity-don't avoid the struggle to find yourself Learn to stake out the extremes-don't live only in the extremes. Written in clear, straightforward language and including many interesting and colorful story interludes, this book is an easy-to-use, powerful tool for all teens.

In , therapists John and Linda Friel gave parents an easy-to-understand guide to overcome the seven worst mistakes even good parents make while raising children. Now they’ve written a book for teens based on the same formula: it includes the seven worst things even smart—and outwardly successful—teens do, and shows teens how they can change these behaviors and assure their success in life as they grow towards adulthood. This book was written expressly for teenagers as a unique roadmap into adulthood. It was designed to stimulate the brain as well as the heart because teenagers who listen to both can eventually negotiate adolescence successfully. It will appeal to teenagers who like to think, wonder, question and challenge, as well as to teenagers who feel that they haven’t quite figured out this “life” thing. The Friels show teens the seven things they need to do in order to overcome common roadblocks they face or will face. These are: Become competent—don’t expect to have self-esteem without becoming competent Master your feelings—don’t let your feelings run the show Break the silence—don’t silently scream instead of making yourself known Get healthy power—don’t avoid learning about power Face the serious stuff—don’t hide the really important things you're experiencing Find an identity—don’t avoid the struggle to find yourself Learn to stake out the extremes—don’t live only in the extremes. Written in clear, straightforward language and including many interesting and colorful story interludes, this book is an easy-to-use, powerful tool for all teens.

Psychologists and best-selling authors John and Linda Friel have written an enormously readable and infinitely practical book that delves into what makes a relationship enduringly successful. Wherever readers are in their own relationships, this book can improve those relationships dramatically, bringing them immediate and lasting benefits. In the tradition of their bestseller, The 7 Worst Things (Good) Parents Do, the authors examine the behaviors that happy, effective couples display continually. After careful investigation, the Friels synthesized years of clinical work into a manageable list of the most significant patterns of behavior couples must address and embrace if they want to become truly great couples. Recognizing that other patterns and behaviors certainly do exist, when patients come the Friels for help, the core issues illustrated in this book are discussed as the couples move boldly toward improving their relationships—with consistently outstanding results. The authors found that they had not seven, but eight, key items to identify. Here are a few: Be Sexual Be Willing To Divorce Manage Your Fear, Hurt, Shame, And Loneliness Own Your Part (be responsible for creating a great relationship)

"In this illuminating book, the Friels explain that power without graciousness results in bullying and nastiness. Graciousness without power results in being a doormat. However, power tempered with graciousness elevates us beyond our purely animalistic selves—it produces competence, gratitude, humility, and effectiveness, attributes that are sorely lacking in today's world where entitlement, narcissism, and incivility reign supreme. By learning how to find and balance this power zone between victim and perpetrator, anyone can stop dysfunctional patterns of behavior and ignite positive change. In fact, the Friels show how even one very small change held firmly for six to twelve months can cause more system-wide change than anything else you can do. Over the past twenty-seven years, their Clearlife® Clinic Program has helped more than 6,000 people identify and change ingrained patterns of behavior, beliefs, and feelings."--Publisher description.