How can a marriage survive an affair? Infidelity is one of life's most painful experiences for everyone involved--the betrayed spouse, the children, the extended family members, and even the lover and the wayward spouse. Once trust is broken, how can a couple ever hope to reconcile? In Surviving an Affair, Drs. Harley and Chalmers help you understand every aspect of infidelity--from the beginning of an affair through the restoration of the marriage. They describe: - why affairs begin and end - how to end an affair - how to restore the marriage - how to manage resentment and rebuild trust Surviving an Affair guides you step-by-step from the devastating blow of infidelity to a loving and trusting marriage. All questionnaires mentioned within this book are available in a fillable pdf format from the authors' websites identified on the last page.

"When Brian told me of his affair, my whole world was shattered. Since the affair, and since the difficult recovery period, I have excelled in amazing ways in every area of my life. I look and feel better than I did when I was in my twenties. I have more energy, more zeal and more enthusiasm for life. Since I have gotten over my insecurities, I experience far better relationships with my husband, children and others. I also have more fun. No matter what tragedies happen in our lives, we always have a choice, not a choice over what will happen to us, but a choice over how we will react to it. Will we become bitter or better? I chose to become better, and now my greatest tragedy has also become my greatest personal victory." – Anne Bercht "Would I want to go back to our marriage before the affair? Not a chance! Would I have liked to have gotten to this point some other way? Absolutely! Would I recommend an affair to others so they can reach a greater love and better marriage? Absolutely not! If you have experienced an affair, is rebuilding your marriage worth it? You bet it is! As long as you love each other and are willing to do the work." – Brian Bercht

"One of the foremost relationship experts at work today applies the insights of science toward understanding the real meaning of trust between a couple. He decodes the "why" behind betrayal and shows how partners can avoid or recover from unfaithfulness and maintain a loving relationship.Dr. John Gottman, the country's pre-eminent researcher on marriage, is famous for his Love Lab at the University of Washington in Seattle where he deciphers the mysteries of human relationships through scientific research. His thirty-five years of exploration have earned him numerous major awards, including from the National Institute of Mental Health, the American Psychological Association, and the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. Now, Dr. Gottman offers surprising findings and advice on the characteristic that is at the heart of all relationships: Trust. Dr. Gottman has developed a formula that precisely calculates any couple's loyalty level. The results determine a relationship's likely future, including the potential for one or both partners to stray. A Love You Can Trust shows couples how to bolster their trust level and avoid what Dr. Gottman calls the "Roach Motel for Lovers." He describes how the outcome of--"sliding door moments," small pivotal points between a couple, can lead either to more emotional connection or to discontent. He suggests a new approach to handling adultery and reveals the varied and unexpected non-sexual ways that couples often betray each other. A Love You Can Trust guides couples through an empirically tested, trust-building program that will let them repair and maintain a long-term, intimate, and romantic relationship"--

Advocates against ending a relationship due to cheating, teaching both victims and perpetrators of infidelity how to deal with their feelings, reduce their sense of despair, and begin rebuilding a strong relationship.

This singular guide presents the straightforward facts on affairs, as well as advice to affairees and spouses on how to cope with them. Since 60% of marriages are affected by affairs, you should know the facts: Women under 30 are as likely as men to have an affair. Love affairs are different from sex affairs. Most affairs last between and three years, but the consequences can last a lifetime. Fewer than 10% of affairees divorce their spouses then marry their lover. Over 75% of those who do divorce and marry their lover divorce again. Nearly 80% of those who divorce during an affair are sorry later. Most marriages survive affairs. If you want to stay married, you can. Prevention works. You can -- and should -- affair-proof your marriage right now.

WHEN SHE CHEATED, My Story on SURVIVING Her Affair, is a raw account of my experience when I discovered my ex-wife's affair, and the subsequent navigation of the tumultuous reality brought on by that discovery.This is a story for those who are looking for something in the midst of one of the darkest times they will face. You are probably looking for advice, hope, justification, guidance, statistics, really anything that can help you navigate the turmoil you are facing. I know. I searched high and low and what I found was scarce information on the true emotional experience that a man can expect after discovering his partner's betrayal.I decided to share my story and write this book because I believe my experience and the journey I have been on since the discovery of my ex-wife's betrayal might possibly help someone who is going through a similar struggle and grasping for answers. Within these pages, You will read my story, as well as commentary on my reflections back on key emotions, feelings and thoughts that governed my experience in surviving the immediate aftermath of discovering my ex-wife's affair. You will also find tips on how I endured the pivotal moments following my discovery and some key takeaways from my experience. My name is Sean and I survived my ex-wife's affair. I am not an expert in psychology nor any matter of physical or mental health. What I am an expert in is my experience and I am uniquely qualified to share it. I will go as far to say there is no one more qualified than I am to share my experience.One of the main things I learned is that when you are struggling to survive the aftermath of discovering that your partner is having an affair, you are never as alone as you may feel. My story is emotional and it is raw. I make no apologies for my story and neither should you. In the wake of devastation, there is no shame in struggling to gather your emotions and thoughts. It is okay when you feel like you are losing control. Ultimately, you will get through this and your life will be opened to possibilities and opportunities that you may have never thought possible.Welcome to my story. I hope it helps with yours.

What Now? Nothing your marriage has sustained in the past compares to the pain of discovering that your spouse has been unfaithful. The betrayal, rage, sadness, and jealousy is unlike anything you've experienced before. And yet it is possible to move forward, decide what to do in your marriage, and most important, heal. For more than 10 years, Surviving Infidelity has been offering sage advice and compassionate, nonjudgmental analysis. Based on the private practices of licensed marriage and family therapist Rona B. Subotnik and clinical psychologist Gloria G. Harris, Ph.D., this third edition has been completely updated and gives you strategies to: Understand the different kinds of affairs and why they happen, including Internet and emotional affairs Cope with your emotions, from grief to rage Repair the marriage if you choose to Learn what it takes to be a survivor Surviving Infidelity, 3rd Edition brings you the new hope and the empathy you need in this difficult time.