As an infidelity specialist for 25 years, therapist Linda J. MacDonald has identified behaviors and attitudes that determine unfaithful persons' success or failure to mend their marriages after an affair. How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair offers practical advice for those who've strayed and want a second chance. Learn what Successful Rebuilders know:* How to avoid the potholes that doom marriages after affairs* Critical guidelines for the first hours after discovery * 15 essential steps for repair after betrayal* Skills to cope with your partner's obsessions and "triggers"* Ways to undo the damage from your lies * The keys to avoid prolonging your spouse's agony (and yours)* The difference between helpful and harmful apologies* How to rebuild your broken life, relationships, and integrity BACK OF THE BOOKMost unfaithful partners underestimate the breadth and depth of the fallout after infidelity. If you have had an affair but have regrets and hope to save your marriage, don't let another mistake-ridden day go by without reading this book! Or, if you are the injured spouse and your unfaithful partner keeps hurting you with his/her attempts to help you feel better in all the wrong ways, put this manual into your spouse's hands right away.Find out for yourself what the difference is between those who blow up their marriages in the aftermath of affairs and those who successfully manage to repair and rebuild their marriages into better-than-ever relationships. How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair provides a practical road map for unfaithful spouses who wish to have another chance with their partners. Easy to read, even for the self-help book phobic! "Your material in How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair is ab¬solutely excellent. I have counseled for twenty-five years and found it well-done, balanced, and accurate." -Jim Velez M.S., M.A., L.P.C., Portland, Oregon

This book has been replaced by Getting Past the Affair, Second Edition, ISBN 978-1-4625-4748-7.

"When Brian told me of his affair, my whole world was shattered. Since the affair, and since the difficult recovery period, I have excelled in amazing ways in every area of my life. I look and feel better than I did when I was in my twenties. I have more energy, more zeal and more enthusiasm for life. Since I have gotten over my insecurities, I experience far better relationships with my husband, children and others. I also have more fun. No matter what tragedies happen in our lives, we always have a choice, not a choice over what will happen to us, but a choice over how we will react to it. Will we become bitter or better? I chose to become better, and now my greatest tragedy has also become my greatest personal victory." – Anne Bercht "Would I want to go back to our marriage before the affair? Not a chance! Would I have liked to have gotten to this point some other way? Absolutely! Would I recommend an affair to others so they can reach a greater love and better marriage? Absolutely not! If you have experienced an affair, is rebuilding your marriage worth it? You bet it is! As long as you love each other and are willing to do the work." – Brian Bercht

Statistics show that one in every four marriages is impacted by infidelity. So the odds are pretty good that you or someone you know has experienced the searing pain of marital infidelity. But adultery is not an automatic death sentence for your marriage. You can trust again. You can restore intimacy. You can have a relationship that you will both cherish for a lifetime. Ten years ago, Gary and Mona Shriver experienced the devastation caused by adultery, and in the course of trying to save themselves, they wrote this book. Raw, transparently honest, the Shrivers’ story alone is an inspiration, offering hope and practical strategies for healing. Now this updated and revised edition adds other real-life stories of betrayal and forgiveness, and new information defining adultery, including the destruction of emotional affairs. Some doubt if a marriage can truly heal after the ravages of infidelity. Unfaithful proves you can. It’s not easy . . . but it can be done. Is it worth it? Yes. And you hold the first step—and hope—in your hand.

How can a marriage survive an affair? Infidelity is one of life's most painful experiences for everyone involved--the betrayed spouse, the children, the extended family members, and even the lover and the wayward spouse. Once trust is broken, how can a couple ever hope to reconcile? In Surviving an Affair, Drs. Harley and Chalmers help you understand every aspect of infidelity--from the beginning of an affair through the restoration of the marriage. They describe: - why affairs begin and end - how to end an affair - how to restore the marriage - how to manage resentment and rebuild trust Surviving an Affair guides you step-by-step from the devastating blow of infidelity to a loving and trusting marriage. All questionnaires mentioned within this book are available in a fillable pdf format from the authors' websites identified on the last page.

An affair is a major crisis in your relationship, but one which you can survive. For some couples, once an infidelity and its after effects are behind them, the marriage is actually stronger than before. For others, coming to terms with what the affair was really about can enable a couple to break up with less anger and create a settlement that will offer their children the best hope for a healthy adjustment after the divorce. Infidelity is a step-by-step guide that will help you cope with the emotional impact of an affair and either choose to break up or begin to build a new model for your marriage.