Gay men reveal their preference—and the reasons behind it! Gay Men and Anal Eroticism: Tops, Bottoms, and Versatiles is a no-holds-barred examination of one of society's most persistent taboos. In a remarkably candid collection of frank and forthright interviews, 21 gay men talk about the role anal sex plays in their lives and relationships and their choices to act as insertive (“top”) or receptive (“bottom”) partners—or both (“versatile”). Ranging in age from 21 to 65, the men discuss the reasons behind (and consequences of) their choices; how they define their sexual roles (and how those roles are defined by gay society); issues of power, trust, and vulnerability; and the concept (in both straight and gay society) that tops and bottoms are socially and morally unequal. These unique interviews, conducted by the author in the Boston and Provincetown areas, celebrate choice in gay men's sexuality while debating whether preference is genetically based or socially formed—a debate largely ignored in social science studies. The men interviewed—including gay porn icon Cole Tucker—discuss perceptions muddied by stereotypes, preconceived notions, and exaggerated scenarios, and the meanings gay men assign to anal sex, including dominance and submission roles related to masculine/feminine, aggressive/passive implications. The interviews also cover each subject's personal history as a gay man, safe sex in the AIDS era, childhood traumas, first-time sexual encounters, loves, desires, and obsessions. The interviews for Gay Men and Anal Eroticism provide insights that are equal parts thoughtful and outrageous, humorous and heartbreaking: Aaron, age 24: “I sort of fell into this image of myself as being a very aggressive bottom, a guy who knew what he wanted and who didn't want any wimps applying.” Danny, 21: “There’s a mindset about being a top … it's kinda like maintaining the ship.” Sam, 36: “I hate to say it, but I’m a bottom … I don’t like to be identified like that because I feel it turns me into something all the way from my feet up to my head.” Eddie, 42: “I guess I enjoy more being a top than a bottom because I haven't found a good top.” and Cole Tucker: “A physical act doesn't really make you a top or a bottom. It's a function, an organic function of what you do. It's the dynamics of where you come from.” The revealing disclosures of Gay Men and Anal Eroticism show equality in man-to-man sex to be as varied as the number of individuals who pursue it. Addressing traditional misunderstandings and misconceptions of gay men as either “limp-wrested fairies” or masculine “trade,” the book uncovers that there is much more to this complex issue than personal preference.

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Finally--the book for every gay man's bedside table. At last! Answers to the questions you're too embarrassed to ask--but always wanted to know! Why does it hurt down there? Is it really safe to do that? What does it mean when something looks like this--and how do I make it go away? Chances are you never learned anything about gay intimacy from your parents, your school, or your family physician. Here, at last, is reliable, comprehensive information on a wide spectrum of gay medical concerns, written by an eminent surgeon and recognized authority on gay health issues. With up-to-date facts, interviews, and case studies from the author's practice, The Ins and Outs of Gay Sex goes far beyond HIV concerns, combining a complete education about the safe and pleasurable practices of male-male sexuality with a comprehensive medical volume. Here are the facts about what you need to know to keep your sex life hot and healthy, including: The rules of safe anorectal stimulation. Symptoms to send you running to the doctor. Foreplay, sex toys, and other accessories. Viral and nonviral STDs-don't wake up with an unpleasant surprise! Treatments for impotence and other sexual dysfunctions. Diseases that can be spread without penetration. Drugs...relationships...doctors (how to find the right one for you), and much more.

What Would Your Sex Life Be Like If You Could Bottom Without Pain? You'd have earthshattering orgasms. You'd experience the erotic pleasure of submitting to your partner's hardness. Sex would be more interesting because you'd add a whole new dimension to it. So what stops you? Pain. Or the fear of pain. The anticipation of it. If you're like a lot of guys, you've either tried and failed to bottom because it hurt too much or you wouldn't let yourself try because of "anticipatory anxiety" -the belief that you have to go through a lot of pain to get to the pleasure of bottoming. You might also be struggling with the "ick factor." A lot of guys are grossed out by anal sex. If you don't know how to get clean down there, the smell and the potential to leave tire tracks behind you can put you off completely. "The Sexhalation Method" Will Completely Eliminate Anal Sex Pain. Mike Alvear, the gay sex columnist and co-host of HBO's The Sex Inspectors, teamed up with colo-rectal specialists, a respiratory psychophysiologist and a yoga guru to create The Sexhalation Method. It combines progressive muscle relaxation, unique breath patterns, and sexual imagery to completely eliminate the pain associated with anal sex. Here's a list of some of the subjects you'll see in this best selling gay sex book: How to stop the feeling that you're going to go on yourself when he's in you. A step-by-step guide to stretching your sphincter so you can take bigger guys. How to deal with emotional blocks that stop you from trying to bottom. How to eliminate hygiene fears and put you in the right frame of mind. Butt tightening exercises that'll keep you tight and him happy. How to get over the hang-up that "real men" don't bottom. How to pick the right adult toy for you. How to choose the best lube. The proper way to use butt plugs, dildos and other toys. Gay sex doesn't have to hurt. You just need to learn The Sexhalation Method. This gay best seller also answers letters from real gay men trying--and failing-- to make male anal sex work. You'll find answers to every question you have, including: "Will I end up wearing diapers if I bottom for hung guys?" "Why does my penis go soft when I bottom?" "Why does my partner lose his hard-on when he's about to enter me?" How do I get my bottom boyfriend to top me?" "Does bottoming cause hemorrhoids?" "We're both bottoms. How do I wake up my inner top?" "How do I get over my disgust of anal sex?" "How can I change my identity as a gay bottom to being more versatile?" "Does bottoming cause anal cancer?" "Why can't he come when I bottom for him?" " Which condoms should I buy?" "How do you put on a condom correctly?" "How do I get myself to use condoms if I hate them?" "What's the secret to staying hard with a condom on?" "Am I wrong to insist on condoms even though we're monogamous?" "How can I top a top?" "I can't bottom without getting stoned first. Is that bad?" "Is anal bleaching safe?" "Can I get HIV from oral sex?" "How can I get HIV if I'm a top?" Find out how The Sexhalation Method can take your sex life to the next level!

Finally a comprehensive guide to a man's second most important sensual organ! Designed for practical use, "The Ass Book" tells you how you and your partner can get more pleasure from your backside. The authors not only provide you with crucial information about anatomy, but give you useful tips to improve your health, fitness, and appearance and of course for better fun down under. Easy-to-understand and written with the gay man in mind, this book is rounded out with advice from experts and interesting sections on the rear in art, literature, and psychology.

This Book Will Show You How To Have Pain-Free Anal Sex So That You Can: • Have explosive orgasms • Experience the presence of another man inside of you • Explore a side you’ve wanted to but were too afraid to try • Feel what it’s like to submit to another man • Become more sensuous and sexually versatile • Use the experience of bottoming to be a better top There’s Only One Thing Stopping You From Becoming More Sexually Versatile: Pain! If you’ve never had anal sex you probably approach it with “anticipatory pain” (the expectation that it’s going to feel like being impaled by a fence post). Or maybe you’ve tried to bottom and it actually felt like that. Either way, you end up getting Anal Glaucoma. That’s where you say to your partner, “I can’t see you in my ass.” How To Eliminate All Pain From Gay Anal Sex. Bottoming is not the sexual equivalent of walking over hot coals. You don’t have to put yourself through hell to get to the other side. You just have to use The Sexhalation Method. It’s a new technique developed with the help of a team of experts I met while writing my gay sex column and hosting the HBO series, The Sex Inspectors. They include a yoga guru, an expert in respiratory psychophysiology, and specialists in colo-rectal anatomy. The Sexhalation Method combines systematic desensitization, pattern breathing, progressive muscle relaxation and sexual imagery to help you achieve what you thought wasn’t possible—bottoming without pain. In addition to The Sexhalation Method you’ll learn: • How to combine the best position with the best angle of entry. • How to resolve emotional blocks that stop you from trying or enjoying anal sex. • How your butt is built so you can avoid the three main points of pain. • The secret to getting yourself squeaky clean on the inside. • Learn about a device that’s better than a douche or an enema. • Get a guided tour of a pain-free bottoming session between Adam and his boyfriend Steve. It’s a beginner’s real-time, step-by-step guide to bottoming that will light you up like an all-night liquor store. Find out how The Sexhalation Method will make you a better lover. Scroll up, click the buy button and start learning the method tonight! Category: Gay Books > Gay Sex> Male Anal Sex