How many times have you screamed "If you loved me, you'd stop " at your husband or son after a particularly nasty bout of drinking? How many times has your wife or sister promised to cut back--to drink only on special occasions? How many times has your heart been broken when this time turned out to be just like all the times before? If you are one of the nearly 80 million Americans affected by someone's drinking, this book is for you. Driven to make sense of her own 40+ years of experience coping with loved ones' drinking problems, Lisa Frederiksen found answers in the emerging brain research and scientific studies. What was missing was research that explained the family member's experience. What were they supposed to do, and what would happen to them if they didn't do it? First published in 2009 and still in demand today, "If You Loved Me, You'd Stop " was Frederiksen's first of six books dedicated to helping family members answer these kinds of questions. But a decade later, there is so much more to share. This updated version includes research advances that explain -- what it is about coping with a loved one's drinking that is so harmful to the family member's physical and emotional health and quality of life -- why alcoholism is a brain disease and what it takes to treat it and why alcoholism is different than alcohol abuse -- and what adverse childhood experiences, secondhand drinking, and toxic stress have to do with all of this. This 10th Anniversary Edition not only shares these important advances in comprehensible language, but it offers suggestions for helping yourself. Because no matter how much you love someone whose drinking affects your life, and no matter how much they love you back, love will not and cannot make them stop. The good news is that it's entirely possible for you to truly enjoy your life -- whether your loved one stops drinking or whether you continue your relationship with them, redefine it, or end it altogether. Additionally, this 10th Anniversary Edition can help those who struggle with a drinking problem understand what has happened to them and what they can do to change and/or treat it. It can also help family members whose loved ones have an opioid or other drug use disorder. Educators; treatment and medical professionals; family law practitioners; juvenile and criminal justice professionals; community, business, and public policy leaders and others whose work involves substance use disorders and their impacts on family members, co-workers, and the community-at-large can benefit from reading this book, as well.

If You Loved Me, You'd Stop! What You Really Need To Know When Your Loved One Drinks Too Much combines the most current brain research on alcoholism and alcohol abuse with Lisa Frederiksen's 40 years experience in dealing with these family problems. By explaining this research from the perspective of someone who has personally survived the ravages of a loved one's drinking, Ms. Frederiksen offers fresh hope for the more than 50 percent of Americans (and the one in four children) who have a family member with a drinking problem. This book addresses a host of issues surrounding alcoholism and alcohol abuse, including co-addictions, DUIs, underage drinking, dual diagnosis, co-dependency, and, importantly, the characteristics that distinguish alcoholism from alcohol abuse (excessive drinking). Frederiksen's book targets those who know their loved one drinks too much and believe that if they can just get them to stop, life will return to normal. If You Loved Me, You'd Stop! What You Really Need To Know When Your Loved One Drinks Too Much combines the most current brain research on alcoholism and alcohol abuse with Lisa Frederiksen's 40 years experience in dealing with these family problems. By explaining this research from the perspective of someone who has personally survived the ravages of a loved one's drinking, Ms. Frederiksen offers fresh hope for the more than 50 percent of Americans (and the one in four children) who have a family member with a drinking problem. This book addresses a host of issues surrounding alcoholism and alcohol abuse, including co-addictions, DUIs, underage drinking, dual diagnosis, co-dependency, and, importantly, the characteristics that distinguish alcoholism from alcohol abuse (excessive drinking). Frederiksen's book targets those who know their loved one drinks too much and believe that if they can just get them to stop, life will return to normal. If You Loved Me, You'd Stop! What You Really Need To Know When Your Loved One Drinks Too Much combines the most current brain research on alcoholism and alcohol abuse with Lisa Frederiksen's 40 years experience in dealing with these family problems. By explaining this research from the perspective of someone who has personally survived the ravages of a loved one's drinking, Ms. Frederiksen offers fresh hope for the more than 50 percent of Americans (and the one in four children) who have a family member with a drinking problem. This book addresses a host of issues surrounding alcoholism and alcohol abuse, including co-addictions, DUIs, underage drinking, dual diagnosis, co-dependency, and, importantly, the characteristics that distinguish alcoholism from alcohol abuse (excessive drinking). Frederiksen's book targets those who know their loved one drinks too much and believe that if they can just get them to stop, life will return to normal.

Who is the typical alcoholic among the 12.5 million living in the United States now? Many, if not most of us when asked that question, would envision a skid row bum or someone at least out of work or with little education locked into a low-skill, low-paying job. But that is not accurate, according to the results of a national study released in June, 2007 by the National Institutes of Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism. The NIAAA determined that alcoholics in the United States really fall into five subtypes, including nearly 20 percent who are highly functional alcoholics, well-educated with good incomes. They include corporate presidents, powerful politicians, police, lawyers, doctors, scientists, and other highly-skilled, highly-educated people who are middle- to high-income and by most accounts successful. In this unprecedented book, mental health counselor Sarah Benton takes us into the worlds and minds of so-called high-functioning alcoholics, to understand how people so intelligent and achievement-oriented get drawn into states in which they secretly cannot control their liquor consumption but still manage to excel in their careers. The book includes a look at celebrity alcoholics like singer Eric Clapton and actor/comedian Robin Williams, as well as alcoholics in high positions including Chris Albrecht, former Chairman and CEO of HBO. Other high-profile people included in this book are Miss USA 2007 Tara Conner and football legend Joe Namath. With her own story of alcoholism and her recovery woven into the text, Benton takes us into the lives and challenges of these well-educated and successful people, seeking to understand how, when, and why they became addicted, as well as the reasons their alcoholism is, for most, so hard to admit, cope with, and recover from.

A self-help guide for teenagers with alcoholic parents, discussing alcoholism, methods of dealing with it, and where to go for help.

"This invaluable work will contribute much to the battle against our number one disease."—from the Foreword by George McGovern, former senator and author of Terry: My Daughter's Life-and-Death Struggle with Alcoholism Alcoholism is a disease. It's time we started treating it like one. Science has offered undisputed proof that alcoholism is a disease rather than a weakness of character, yet millions of alcoholics continue to suffer due to inappropriate treatment. Now the co-author of the modern classic Under the Influence has teamed up with prominent alcoholism experts to provide new answers to this national epidemic. Based on the latest scientific research, Beyond the Influence clearly explains the neurological nature of the disease and reveals why some people drink addictively and others do not. It also spells out what needs to be done to treat alcoholism, including: Steps to take for an intervention How to find the right treatment program Which psychological approaches work best Why spirituality is essential to recovery New insights into relapse prevention What you should know about diet, exercise, and nontraditional treatments such as acupuncture Provocative and eye-opening, compelling and compassionate, Beyond the Influence is not only a message of hope for alcoholics--it is a blueprint for saving lives. Beyond the Influence explains that alcoholism is a disease of the body, not a weakness of character. Drawing on the latest scientific studies, the authors present new research on the central role of genetics and neurotransmitters in addiction. Continuing where the prior book left off, it also includes: Steps for diagnosis and intervention, plus ways to prevent relapses Various treatment models, including inpatient and out-patient programs and a review of new drug treatments The most effective types of psychological counseling The critical role of nutrition Non-traditional healing methods for recovery The importance of a spiritual component to recovery The authors also critique our nation's alcoholism policies, including education and prevention programs, efforts to curtail college bingeing and underage drinking, and the advertising and marketing strategies of the alcohol industry.

Lord Please Make Him Stop Drinking provides clear biblical examples of how wives can experience peace in their home from the up and down roller coaster of an alcoholic husband. Christine Folk, communications coach and founder of Epiphany Approach, has put her wisdom on the page in Lord Please Make Him Stop Drinking. Within its pages, Christine provides new skills for women to use when that angry alcoholic side of their husband shows up again. Lord Please Make Him Stop Drinking lays out a practical approach to applying God’s word to tumultuous situations and shows women how to: Resist being provoked into his argument ... again Speak to him in "his" language and get him to stop yelling Reduce the intensity and frequency of his rants Know what his real problem is Know exactly what God is trying to tell them

"Living with a Functioning Alcoholic" is a book about hope, written specifically for women living in the chaos of alcoholic families yet unable to seek help from a psychologist.