"When there is no enemy within, the enemies outside cannot hurt you." ~African Proverb Do you ever look at people who are successful, healthy and happy and wonder what their secret is? Why you can't be like that? After more than a decade long struggle with emotional eating, depression, and low self-esteem, I realized that the reason I couldn't be happy like the people I envied was that I didn't love myself. For me, developing self-love has been profoundly healing. I can hardly believe how effortless it has been for me to quit overeating, exercise daily, attract a loving relationship, and have the career of my dreams. Nowadays, people come to me for counseling, convinced that they're hopeless. There's no way they can learn how to unconditionally love themselves! I meet people who say they envy that I love myself, since they're too messed up, worthless, unattractive etc. to be loved. The reasons they believe this vary greatly, but the common ground is that they were made to feel unlovable, unaccepted or worthless in the past and feel too low to recover. You may recognize yourself in the following stories: How can I love my fat body? I hate it. I was abused as a child and told I deserved it. I do so much to please others and they do nothing in return. My dad said I wasn't smart enough to amount to anything so why try. I've been put down by my family since childhood. It's too late to change that low opinion I've had drummed into my head. My first real love criticized me non-stop and I can't let go of feeling I'm not good enough to be loved. These messages leave a deep imprint and you probably developed habits, automatic responses of the mind, that correspond "I'm unlovable" "I don't matter" to yourself and the outside world. You may be in the habit of eating too much junk food when you feel bad, criticizing the things you do wrong, ignoring your positive assets, always saying yes to others, or staying with people who treat you poorly. You deserve so much better! Now, it's true that these habits can't be changed overnight, but with patience and consistency you can reprogram yourself and develop true unconditional love and acceptance for yourself, as the imperfect person you (we all!) are. Even if you can't meet the expectations of others on a daily basis, don't excel at anything or don't look like a Victoria's Secret model. Everyone should be treated with respect, understanding, love and acceptance. Including YOU. Don't fall for the myth that self-love is selfish; it's not. In the end, the more you love and take care of yourself, the more you will have to give others. In this guide "The 7 Habits of Self-Loving People" I will help you to: Develop new habits that will significantly boost your feelings and actions of self-love on a daily base Realize the importance of taking good care of yourself and your body, and how to bring this in practice Let go of self-talk, behaviors, things and people that do not serve you Understand why it's so important to forgive yourself and not feel guilty about your mistakes Become aware of who you really are, how you feel and want you need ..and much more inside! Take the first step towards learning how to love yourself unconditionally today! The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. ~ Lao Tzu

"When there is no enemy within, the enemies outside cannot hurt you." (African proverb) Do you ever look at people who are successful, healthy, and happy and wonder what their secret is? Why you can't be like that? After more than a decade of struggling with emotional eating, depression, and low self-esteem, I realized that the reason I couldn't be happy like the people I envied was that I didn't love myself. Nowadays, people come to me for counseling, convinced that they're hopeless. There's no way they can learn how to unconditionally love themselves! I meet people who say they envy that I love myself, since they're too messed up, worthless, unattractive, etc. to be loved. The reasons they believe this vary greatly, but the common ground is that they were made to feel unlovable, unaccepted, or worthless in the past and feel too low to recover. Now, it's true that these habits can't be changed overnight, but with patience and consistency, you can reprogram yourself and develop true unconditional love and acceptance for yourself as the imperfect person you (we all!) are. Even if you can't meet the expectations of others on a daily basis, don't excel at anything, or don't look like a Victoria's Secret model, everyone should be treated with respect, understanding, love, and acceptance - including you. In this guide, I will help you to: - Develop new habits that will significantly boost your feelings and actions of self-love on a daily basis - Realize the importance of taking good care of yourself and your body and how to bring this in practice - Let go of self-talk, behaviors, and people that do not serve you - Understand why it's so important to forgive yourself and not feel guilty about your mistakes - Become aware of who you really are, how you feel, and what you need - And more...

The 7 Habits of Exceptionally Happy People A Powerful & Scientific Approach to Happiness True happiness is an "inside job". Look at a happy person's life and you don't see any magic or unicorns. There's nothing in them that isn't also in you. Though external realities can certainly play a role, happiness doesn't spring from what you have, what happens to you, the situation you are in, where you are, or anything else. In fact, if it was easy to be happy, this book would be a very short one! Happiness doesn't have much to do with money, with achievement or with possessions, because plenty of people have all three and are still not happy. In this guide, we'll approach happiness not as something you have, but something you actively do, each and every day. The 7 Habits of Exceptionally Happy people will help you to: Understand and apply the key principles of living a happy life in an easy step-by-step way Let go of things, thoughts, behaviors and people that do not serve you anymore Identify and use your unique strengths and virtues Realize that "huffy fluffy" concepts such as forgiveness, gratitude and mindfulness are actually extremely powerful ..and much more inside! Learn how to love your life and become a happier person TODAY! Are you ready?

Of all the forces in this great, wide Universe, Love may be one of the most powerful - and confusing. There are many forms of love, from the adoration we feel to our family and friends to the all consuming passion we may develop for a spouse. Yet when it comes to the love of self, many of us stumble, either from fear, self-doubt or even an odd sense that we are not worthy of truly loving ourselves. Loving yourself, deeply and fully, is fundamental to living a life that brings you happiness and joy. This book tackles this tricky concept and explores the ins and outs of what being true to yourself and honestly loving who you are really means. Small daily steps can add up to a more joyful existence, one where you treat yourself with the love and compassion you already show your friends and family. From finding 'me' time to forgiving yourself, the journey to self-worth and confidence begins with being kind to yourself and learning to love who you are - this guide will show you how.

Severing a cherished relationship is one of the most painful experiences in life—and cutting those emotional ties to a loved one can feel almost like ending an addiction. Up till now, people recovering from other problems were able to get real help—like AA and rehab—while those struggling in the aftermath of traumatic breaks dealt with platitudes and friends insisting they should "get over it already." But now Exaholics Anonymous treats getting over an ex like kicking a chemical habit. Written by counselor and therapist Dr. Lisa Bobby, Exaholics offers meaningful support and advice to anyone trapped in the obsessive pain of a broken, or dying, attachment. She helps the brokenhearted heal, showing them, on a deep level, how to develop a conceptual framework for their experience, understand the emotional processes at work inside themselves, find the path to recovery, and free themselves of shame, injured ego, and remorse. In-depth case studies of others' journeys will illuminate the way to future happiness.

Learning to love yourself lets you live the life you always wanted This book teaches you the importance of self-love, including what it means, why it matters, and how to develop a healthy mindset and habits Why is loving yourself important? It improves your confidence and self-esteem It makes you more productive and fulfilled It helps you reduce the amount of stress in your life It's contagious and makes others want to be around you It helps you see yourself as the valuable, important person you truly are Fight against destructive negativity and low-esteem This book knows that self-love is not an easy task, and it's certainly not one that most people know how to do by default. You'll learn how to asses your current self-esteem and identify the roadblocks that are holding you back from loving yourself. Then, you'll learn how to transform that negativity into positivity. . Embrace healthy diet, exercise, and self-care We're constantly told that to be a good person, we have to focus entirely on others and never ourselves. That's a common misconception, and what ends up happening is we push ourselves so hard that we become drained of life, and have nothing to offer others. If you really care about loving others, you have to love yourself, first. This book provides a path on how to treat yourself as you treat others, including better diet, exercise, and always beginning the day with self-love. That can include journaling and treating yourself to something you enjoy. You also want to be kind to yourself, and only consume positive media, books, and TV. Only surround yourself with what encourages you There are obstacles to self-love, so it's important to get rid of as many of them as possible. Surround yourself with friends and family who encourage you, and don't bring you down. Think carefully about your friends and if there's someone who always has harmful words for you, avoid spending time with them or giving them the opportunity to criticize you. Some people don't even realize what they're doing, so have conversations with these friends about how they treat you. Have the same conversation with yourself, if necessary. Many people harbor guilt and bitterness against themselves, so learn how to forgive and forget. Commit to the journey of self-love Turning negativity into positivity, and self-hatred into self-love is a journey. Setting goals for yourself is an important part of the process, and focusing on small things you can do every day to improve your self-esteem. You'll start to see positive results like more energy, less depressive episodes, and just a lighter sense of being. Be sure to reward yourself for your progress, and celebrate every victory as it comes. Learning to say "no" One of the hardest parts of self-care is saying "no," whether it's to negative influences or people. This book will explore how to say "no" well, and what happens afterwards. Body image and the media A common variation of self-hatred is hatred of your own body. The media has been an incredibly destructive force, and forces the idea of what "perfect" is. This book will break down signs that you may have a body image problem, and what to do about it. Part of loving yourself is loving the skin you're in, and loving yourself as a whole. Love yourself for a week, for 30 days, and beyond! Let this book be your guide to self-love and self-care every step of the way. It isn't a selfish, or foolish endeavor. Self-love will transform your life.

Most of us go through life with a vision of what the ideal relationship is supposed to be, yet too often our longing for a soul mate leads to disappointment and heartbreak. What we see, desire, or harshly judge in our mate is but a reflection of self, Vanzant explains, as in IN THE MEANTIME she helps us to break free of our fantasies and view a relationship as an ongoing process of discovery and growth. Whether she is offering practical advice on how to avoid making the same relationship mistakes over and over again, or helping us to view the painful end of a relationship as an opportunity to learn and change, Iyanla Vanzant, as author Patrice Gains has said, 'reminds us that every moment is an opportunity to learn and inspires and encourages us to continue our inward daily search'.