From the country’s foremost expert on “cold feet,” a smart and compassionate guide for the bride-to-be who thinks she should be blissfully happy—but is freaking out instead For most brides, the elation of engagement is accompanied by a cocktail of unexpected emotions: Anxiety about making a lifelong commitment. Sadness about leaving their single life behind. Confusion when even simple decisions—should we serve chicken cordon bleu or beef Wellington?—bring them to tears. Worst of all, since everyone around them expects them to be happy, few brides feel there’s anyone to turn to with these conflicting feelings. Written by one of Modern Bride’s “25 Trendsetters of 2006”—and targeting the 2.5 million women who get engaged each year—Emotionally Engagedis the only book geared toward helping brides survive their engagements and emerge as stronger, happier, better- adjusted married women. In the book, Allison Moir-Smith shares her threestage, tried-and-true process from her workshops and individual therapy sessions, along with the stories of over a dozen brides-to-be and newlyweds, helping readers transform their bridal blues into bridal bliss.

An invaluable tool for clinicians and students, Becoming an Emotionally Focused Therapist: The Workbook takes the reader on an adventure – the quest to become a competent, confident, and passionate couple and family therapist. In an accessible resource for training and supervision, seven expert therapists lead the reader through the nine essential steps of EFT with explicit intervention strategies. Suitable as a companion volume to The Practice of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, 2nd Ed. or as a stand-alone learning tool, the workbook provides an easy road-map to mastering the art of EFT with exercises, review sheets and practice models. Unprecedented in its novel and interactive approach, this is a must-have for all therapists searching for lasting and efficient results in couple therapy.

Tackling difficult issues, Emotionally Involved gives a vivid picture the challenges researchers who studey traumatic events face. It is essential reading for researchers, therapists, fieldworkers, for those on the frontlines of rape crisis and domestic violence work, and for anyone concerned with the role of emotions in social science.

This volume makes Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT) widely accessible to therapists of different orientations and to therapists in training. It provides clinicians with practical tools, an experiential tour through case examples, and simple guidance to step into EFT. An overview of the change events includes both client processes and therapist interventions moment-to-moment. 'In Stepping into Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy: Key Ingredients of Change, each step and stage of EFT is laid out in a practical and theoretically simple manner that extends beyond what therapists need to do, to helping therapists grasp what experiential therapy is, providing moment-by-moment examples of how to engage clients emotionally, and how to foster emotional engagement between partners.'- From the Foreword by S. Johnson and A. Lee

Has your father caused you immense pain? Did the man who was supposed to cherish, support, and shield you from harm inflict traumas that still impact your life today? Do you find yourself struggling daily to recover from the harm he has caused? Growing up as a daughter with an emotionally distant father can be a challenging and isolating experience; you may suffer from low self-worth, anger, depression and feelings of worthlessness. There are numerous ways in which fathers can be emotionally detached from their daughters, such as through divorce, career obligations, military service, addictions, severe physical or mental illness or even death. It is possible that such men are narcissists who constantly criticised you, attempted to manipulate and control you, or were abusive. Alternatively, they could have been old-fashioned fathers who communicated their desires through actions rather than words. Perhaps they were unresponsive when you needed them the most. They may have provided for your basic needs but were otherwise absent. Adult daughters with emotionally distant fathers often recognise that something is amiss but fail to see the long-term consequences on themselves, their romantic relationships, their friendships and their professional lives. Consider reading this book if you identify with any of these behaviours in your father: · They only acknowledge your physical needs, not your emotional ones. · They speak to you in a monotonous, disinterested voice. · They make harsh and critical remarks. · They do not listen or show interest in your life. · They never praise or celebrate your accomplishments. · They never spend time alone with you. · They rarely express affection through hugs or smiles. · They are preoccupied when with you, due to work, TV, or their phone. · They struggle with addiction to alcohol or other substances. · They prioritise unnecessary expenses over your needs. · They are unable to manage their emotions or express their feelings. · They are defensive and reluctant to accept differing opinions. · They blame you for their shortcomings or errors. · They refuse to take accountability for their actions. · They deny reality when confronted about their behaviour, making you feel irrational. These are just a few examples of the most prevalent indicators. Family dynamics can be complex and diverse. The damaging effects of an emotionally absent father are rarely discussed. It is crucial to bring attention to these types of fathers! You may be experiencing the following as a result: · Anger and disappointment due to the lack of affection and support you deserved. · Feelings of being unloved, inadequate, and worthless. · Isolation, without the support of a network of caring family members. · Confusion regarding your experiences and emotions. In romantic relationships, women with absent fathers may recreate past patterns, struggling to form lasting connections with partners who don't value or respect them. Can you heal from the unseen childhood wounds caused by an emotionally absent father? Thankfully, this guide offers methods to enable you to recognise and break negative patterns while fostering healthier ones that suit you. It is crucial to do this for yourself, your loved ones and your future children. This book was written for you and it will aid your healing process.

This second edition of Becoming an Emotionally Focused Therapist: The Workbook has been fully revised by expert therapists with advances in attachment science and emotionally focused therapy (EFT) practice, the integration of the "EFT Tango"—a guide to the EFT process—and new chapters on working with both individuals and families. Suitable as a companion volume to The Practice of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy or as a standalone learning tool, it provides an easy road-map toward mastering the ins and outs of EFT with practice exercises, review questions, and compelling clinical examples. Invaluable for clinicians and students, this workbook takes the reader on an adventure: the quest to become a competent, confident, and passionate emotionally focused therapist.

Emotionally Focused Therapy with African American Couples: Love Heals is an essential guide that integrates emotionally focused therapy (EFT) with cultural humility. It provides a pathbreaking, evidence-based model of couples work that reinforces the bond between partners in the face of race-based distress. Guillory explores and brings a deep understanding of the legacy of racial trauma, and the cultural strengths of African American couples by using real-life case studies. The chapters in the book focus on several key clinical issues in the field, such as communication problems, anxiety, infidelity, depression, and porn. Each case study is enhanced by a consultation with EFT master therapist Sue Johnson. The book is an essential text for students and mental health professionals looking to provide culturally competent therapeutic interventions. It will also appeal to psychologists, mental health workers, social workers, marriage and family therapists, and religious leaders.