This pioneering book explores the impact of ADHD on a couple’s sex life and relationship. It explains how a better sex life will benefit your relationship (and vice versa) and why that’s especially important for couples with one partner with ADHD. Grounded in innovative research, ADHD After Dark draws on data from a survey of over 3000 adults in a couple where one partner has ADHD. Written from the author’s unique perspective as both an expert in ADHD and a certified sex therapist, the book describes the many effects of ADHD on couples’ sex lives and happiness, covering areas such as negotiating sexual differences, performance problems, low desire, porn, making time for sex, infidelity, and more. The book outlines key principles for a great sex life for couples with ADHD and offers strategies and treatment interventions where specific issues arise. Written in a readable and entertaining style, ADHD After Dark offers clear information on sexuality and relationships and is full of valuable advice on how to improve both. This guide will be an essential read for adults with ADHD, as well as their partners or spouses, and therapists who work with ADHD clients and couples.

Your partner’s attention deficit disorder (ADD) may not seem like a big deal at first, but eventually, the dynamics surrounding his or her impulsivity, forgetfulness, distractibility, and restlessness can really strain your relationship. You don’t want to act like a parent, yet you may feel like you can’t rely on your partner to get things done. Loving Someone with Attention Deficit Disorder is your guide to navigating a relationship with someone with ADD so you can create healthy boundaries while remaining sympathetic to your partner’s symptoms. An essential resource for every couple affected by ADD, this book will help you: • Understand medication and other treatments • Recover quickly when your partner’s symptoms frustrate you • Establish personal boundaries to avoid excessive caretaking • Identify and take care of your own needs so you can feel more relaxed

"More and more often, adults are realizing that the reason they are struggling so much in their relationship is that they are impacted by previously undiagnosed adult ADHD. The Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD gives concrete answers and strategies to those suffering from adult ADHD that couples can immediately use to improve their relationships. This book addresses questions from both ADHD and non-ADHD partners and provides straightforward advice arranged in a way that makes it easy to find the specific answers couples seek. It covers topics that include diagnosing adult ADHD, how to begin bringing about changes, communication techniques, dealing with anger and frustration, and rebuilding intimacy in a relationship. Part reference manual and part cheerleader, this is the go-to book for couples struggling with ADHD who want to actively work to improve their relationships"--

Winner of four national book awards! Revised First Edition, 2022 Is It You, Me, or Adult ADHD? has helped thousands of readers worldwide to understand how this highly variable syndrome affects them. Professionals and couples who have elevated their lives with its wisdom recommend it to others. In this highly endorsed, clearly written, and comprehensive guide, Gina Pera guides you in making sense of your own Adult ADHD Roller Coaster. She helps you to: —View ADHD as a variable syndrome affecting individuals, not clones —Realize how a later-in-life ADHD diagnosis creates additional issues —Revise misinterpretations of symptoms, forged long ago, that can thwart progress now —Heal poor coping responses and dysfunctional interaction cycles, as individuals and couples —Implement practical supports to completing routine tasks and reaching long-term goals, with teamwork! —Appreciate how poorly managed ADHD can also negatively affect the spouses and other loved ones. —Delve into "denial's" dual nature — physiological and psychological — and reach through it —Adopt proven approaches that remain extremely rare in clinical settings The science has been clear since 1994, when Adult ADHD was declared a medical diagnosis. Still, the public harbors misconceptions, and that means millions suffer needlessly. That includes millions of couples who can't understand why their lives together are so hard—often despite many attempts at therapy. The simple truth is: Everyone knows someone with adult ADHD. Yet we often misattribute the symptoms to anxiety, depression, or even laziness, selfishness, “addictive personality,” or moodiness. Some assume that ADHD means "little boys with ants in their pants." In fact, childhood hyperactivity goes "underground" as the person matures, resulting in a mentally restless state. Meticulously researched and written by Gina Pera, Is It You, Me, or Adult ADHD? helps you recognizing the behaviors where you least expect them and developing compassion for everyone wrestling with unrecognized ADHD symptoms. It also offers: —Explanations from preeminent experts —Plenty of real-life details —Easy-to-understand, detailed advice on the best treatment options and practical solutions. The revolutionary message is one of hope for millions of people—and a joyous opportunity for a better life.

In total, this volume addresses many of the issues that couples face when either one or both partners has ADHD and the many ways that clinicians can help them in dealing with these issues.Although historically the diagnosis and treatment of ADHD have focused on children, more recently clinicians and researchers have explored the impact of ADHD on adults. Few, however, have focused on the effects of adult ADHD on relationships and marriages, which makes this a must-read for all of those interested in and working with adults with ADHD.

Since ADHD became a well-known condition, decades ago, much of the research and clinical discourse has focused on youth. In recent years, attention has expanded to the realm of adult ADHD and the havoc it can wreak on many aspects of adult life, including driving safety, financial management, education and employment, and interpersonal difficulties. Adult ADHD-Focused Couple Therapy breaks new ground in explaining and suggesting approaches for treating the range of challenges that ADHD can create within a most important and delicate relationship: the intimate couple. With the help of contributors who are experts in their specialties, Pera and Robin provide the clinician with a step-by-step, nuts-and-bolts approach to help couples enhance their relationship and improve domestic cooperation. This comprehensive guide includes psychoeducation, medication guidelines, cognitive interventions, co-parenting techniques, habit change and communication strategies, and ADHD-specific clinical suggestions around sexuality, money, and cyber-addictions. More than twenty detailed case studies provide real-life examples of ways to implement the interventions.

Do you or a loved one have ADHD and struggle with maintaining healthy relationships? Do you find yourself constantly frustrated and misunderstood in your relationships because of ADHD? Why is it so difficult to love someone with ADHD? Couples in healthy romantic relationships often face challenges such as communication breakdowns, trust issues and differences in values and lifestyles. In relationships where one partner has ADHD, these challenges can be amplified. ADHD can cause difficulties with organisation, time management and emotional regulation, which can lead to misunderstandings and frustration. Additionally, the partner who does not have ADHD may feel neglected or unimportant due to their partner's distractibility and forgetfulness. However, with the right strategies and support, couples can navigate these challenges and build a strong and loving relationship. Couple dynamics are unique and often complex, yet I highly recommend that you read this book if the following feelings surface in your relationship: ·Loneliness, ignored and unappreciated. ·Feeling tired of taking care of everything on your own and being the only responsible party in the relationship. ·Anger and emotional stalemate. Anger and resentment permeate many interactions with the ADHD spouse. ·Feeling that you cannot count on your partner. You always have to organise everything to make up for his or her forgetfulness. ·Frustration. A spouse without ADHD might feel as if the same issues keep coming back over and over again. ·Sometimes it seems that your partner does not care about you. ·Exhaustion and depletion. The spouse without ADHD carries too many responsibilities and no amount of effort seems to fix the relationship. You experience a lot of resentment, but also recognise the need to try and understand the situation. It can be a challenging and complex process. If you are the person with ADHD: ·You may feel constantly criticised for what you do. ·You may not feel respected as an equal when you tend to avoid your partner. ·You may feel like your partner is in control of every aspect of your life. ·You may feel ashamed. Sufferers of ADHD often hide a large amount of shame, sometimes compensating with bluster or retreat. ·You may feel overwhelmed, secretly or overtly, by the constant stress caused by ADHD symptoms. · You may feel different. The brain is often racing, and people with ADHD experience the world in a way that others do not easily understand or relate to. ·You find that the partner without ADHD complains, nags and becomes increasingly resentful, while the ADHD partner feels judged and misunderstood, becomes defensive and pulls away. The individual with ADHD often has a sense that something is wrong, but may struggle to identify the root cause. They may have received a misdiagnosis earlier in life or only learned about their condition as an adult, leading them to believe they were unintelligent or incapable for much of their life. This book is a culmination of years of experience and expertise in maintaining healthy romantic relationships. It contains valuable insights and techniques that are essential to saving your relationship from potential pitfalls that could lead to a breakup. Do not wait until it is too late – get your hands on this book now to safeguard your relationship's future.