Divorce doesn’t have to be a messy and tragic process, especially when there are children involved. In fact, research shows that about 20% of divorces are amicable. Couples with minor children who have good communication skills and a focus on long-term outcomes for their children can work together effectively to resolve differences and make the transition as smooth as possible. Written by a psychologist and a divorce lawyer with nearly 100 years of experience working with divorcing spouses and families, this research-based book provides a roadmap for having a sensible divorce that focuses on the long-term goals of both parties. Don’t let the emotions of the separation get in the way of making the best decisions for your future. Use the knowledge and skills in this book to guide you through the process.

Divorce doesn't have to be a messy and tragic process, especially when there are children involved. In fact, research shows that about 20% of divorces are amicable. Couples with minor children who have good communication skills and a focus on long-term outcomes for their children can work together effectively to resolve differences and make the transition as smooth as possible. Written by a psychologist and a divorce lawyer with nearly 100 years of experience working with divorcing spouses and families, this research-based book provides a roadmap for having a sensible divorce that focuses on the long-term goals of both parties. Don't let the emotions of the separation get in the way of making the best decisions for your future. Use the knowledge and skills in this book to guide you through the process.

"Deborah Graham, Alison Anderson and Stella Kavoukian have written an incredibly helpful book. Unlike other books on divorce, they start not with answers, or a flood of abstract general information, but instead with questions, and good ones, difficult and important ones that each of us needs to answer. If it is possible for a guide to divorce to be friendly, this book does it, without skimping on the details or offering platitudes instead of sound advice. The authors' separate areas of expertise track the questions we most seek answers to, and their breadth of experience and accumulated wisdom shine through. I recommend it highly." Kenneth Cloke, author of Mediating Dangerously and The Dance of Opposites "Sensitive, thoughtful, practical guide for those seeking to limit the emotional and financial costs of separation and divorce." Irwin S. Butkowsky, Ph.D., C. Psych. Psychologist "This guide is a comprehensive and practical tool for parents as they navigate the stresses of separation and divorce. It addresses common issues that parents struggle with including how to: explain divorce to children, provide appropriate emotional support, understand children's grief, select a child therapist and respond to children's reunification fantasies. It is an invaluable resource that will help parents support their child's healthy adjustment to divorce. Highly recommended!" Liana Lowenstein, MSW, author of Creative Interventions for Children of Divorce and Cory Helps Kids Cope with Divorce "There are lots of books available to help people untangle the complexities of divorce - but the Guide to a Sensible Divorce is unique in that it reads like a simple question and answer guide while also providing comprehensive and critical information about the emotional, financial and legal aspects of a process that can be overwhelming. A great resource for anyone going through a separation/divorce." Vivian Alterman MBA, CPA, CBV The decisions that need to be made in the midst of a separation and divorce can lead to many questions. This guide provides clear and practical answers to the most commonly asked questions relating to parenting, legal, and financial issues that may arise, including tips on choosing the right process for you and what professionals you may need. The authors have a combined 75+ years of experience in negotiation, mediation, and collaborative practice. Deborah (lawyer) provides a legal overview as well as negotiation tips and guidance on how to know when to settle. Stella (social worker/family professional) provides guidance on how to support your children, and what to consider when developing a parenting plan. Alison (financial professional) shows how you may be able to increase your combined family income, provides insight into the various financial decisions you may face, and offers ideas on sharing expenses for your children. These are just a few examples of the challenging issues separating couples may face, and the practical information the authors provide.

Divorce is painful and confusing. Perhaps now more than ever, you want to give your child all the love, support, and guidance he or she needs, but everything seems harder and more complicated. Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way can help. Based on Gary Neuman's phenomenally successful Sandcastles program, which has helped more than fifty thousand children cope with divorce, this warm, empathetic guide shows you: How to build a co-parenting relationship--even when you think you can't When you or your child should see a therapist Age-appropriate scripts for addressing sensitive issues What to do when a parent moves away How to stop fighting with your ex-spouse How to navigate the emotional turmoil of custody and visitation How to help your child deal with change How to cope with kids' common fears about separation How to introduce significant others into the family and help your child cope with a new stepfamily More than a hundred pieces of artwork from children of divorce will help you appreciate how kids perceive the experience. Dozens of special activities and fun exercises will help you communicate and get closer to your child. This guide shows you that divorce need not be an inevitable blot on children's lives, but an opportunity for them to grow and strengthen the bonds with their parents.

From the bestselling authors of Parenting the Strong-Willed Child, expert strategies and action steps for divorcing parents While there are many trade books on children and divorce, most tend to be filled with extensive discussions of the psychological impact on children, with little effective advice. You want immediate answers and quick access to expert strategies you can use to help your kids today and in the future. Making Divorce Easier on Your Child arms you with 50 effective strategies and action steps for helping your kids cope with divorce, packaged in a convenient, quick-bite format. It is based on the authors' years of clinical experience dealing with the children of divorce, as well as their extensive research into the causes and cures of divorce-related emotional problems. "Informative and sensible, offering realistic, clear-cut recommendations." Robert Brooks, Ph.D., Faculty, Harvard Medical School, and coauthor of Raising Resilient Children

Solutions for negotiating one of life's most difficult events Healthy Divorce is a very valuable book, containing practicalanswers to difficult questions. --Dan Kiley, author of The Peter Pan Syndrome and The WAndyDilemma The authors have devoted their careers to counseling divorcingfamilies. In this encouraging book, they outline the fourteenstages of divorces and offer families practical advice andsolutions for negotiating one of life's most difficult events. Withsensitivity and sensibility they explain how to recognize thedifferent stages of the divorce; what to expect during each phase;and how to deal with the predictable patterns of the divorceprocess. Healthy Divorce explores ways of confronting such tough issues ashow to tell your children you're getting a divorce; how to plan aseparation; and how to cope with your feelings of anger, grief, andabandonment. The authors offer practical advice on using mediationas an alternative to the adversarial court battle; co-parenting tomaintain stability for the children after the divorce; andorganizing and structuring a happy blAnded family.

Here is your own personal divorce coach, designed to help you stay organized and effective through a potentially challenging and complicated process. Written by a divorce and life reinvention consultant and an expert divorce financial planner, this highly interactive guide provides a wealth of essential information, exercises, and advice about the legal, financial, and emotional aspects of divorce. 160 pages.