“I’m in love with this book! It illuminates the forces that make parenting so difficult, and helps us develop better relationships with our kids—and ourselves.” —Hunter Clarke-Fields, MSAE, author of Raising Good Humans Parenting is hard. But when we replace conventional parent-child power dynamics with collaboration, family life gets easier today—and we create a better world for all of us in the future. When we see our children stalling, resisting, having tantrums, using mean words, and hitting, we want to just make it stop. But conventional discipline methods like time-outs, countdowns, and “consequences” teach children that it’s OK for more powerful people to control others—a lesson they take out into the world. This is how we learned White supremacy, patriarchy, and capitalism from our parents—and we will replicate this with our children unless we make a different choice. Research-based parenting educator Jen Lumanlan offers a simple yet revolutionary framework for rethinking our relationships with children. This new approach helps us to look beneath challenging behaviors to find and meet children’s needs, and ours too—perhaps for the first time in our lives. It involves empathetic listening, understanding feelings and underlying needs, and problem-solving with our children to find solutions to conflicts that work for everyone. Family life becomes radically easier in the short term because behavior problems tend to melt away. In the long term, we’ll raise children who confidently advocate for themselves and treat others with profound respect. Includes sample scripts, flowcharts, and resources to help parents learn and implement this new approach. —"The compassionate guidance will be a boon to parents eager to move away from punitive child-rearing strategies."—Publisher's Weekly

“I’m in love with this book! It illuminates the forces that make parenting so difficult, and helps us develop better relationships with our kids—and ourselves.” —Hunter Clarke-Fields, MSAE, author of Raising Good Humans Parenting is hard. But when we replace conventional parent-child power dynamics with collaboration, family life gets easier today—and we create a better world for all of us in the future. When we see our children stalling, resisting, having tantrums, using mean words, and hitting, we want to just make it stop. But conventional discipline methods like time-outs, countdowns, and “consequences” teach children that it’s OK for more powerful people to control others—a lesson they take out into the world. This is how we learned White supremacy, patriarchy, and capitalism from our parents—and we will replicate this with our children unless we make a different choice. Research-based parenting educator Jen Lumanlan offers a simple yet revolutionary framework for rethinking our relationships with children. This new approach helps us to look beneath challenging behaviors to find and meet children’s needs, and ours too—perhaps for the first time in our lives. It involves empathetic listening, understanding feelings and underlying needs, and problem-solving with our children to find solutions to conflicts that work for everyone. Family life becomes radically easier in the short term because behavior problems tend to melt away. In the long term, we’ll raise children who confidently advocate for themselves and treat others with profound respect. Includes sample scripts, flowcharts, and resources to help parents learn and implement this new approach. —"The compassionate guidance will be a boon to parents eager to move away from punitive child-rearing strategies."—Publisher's Weekly

A guide that helps parents focus on their children's unique strengths and inclinations rather than on gendered stereotypes to more effectively bring out the best in their individual children, for parents of infants to middle schoolers. Reliance on Gendered Stereotypes Negatively Impacts Kids Studies on gender and child development show that, on average, parents talk less to baby boys and are less likely to use numbers when speaking to little girls. Without meaning to, we constantly color-code children, segregating them by gender based on their presumed interests. Our social dependence on these norms has far-reaching effects, such as leading girls to dislike math or increasing aggression in boys. In this practical guide, developmental psychologist (and mother of two) Christia Spears Brown uses science-based research to show how over-dependence on gender can limit kids, making it harder for them to develop into unique individuals. With a humorous, fresh, and accessible perspective, Parenting Beyond Pink & Blueaddresses all the issues that contemporary parents should consider—from gender-segregated birthday parties and schools to sports, sexualization, and emotional intelligence. This guide empowers parents to help kids break out of pink and blue boxes to become their authentic selves.

Every parent knows the unrelenting fervour of a four-year-old's tantrum, an eight-year-old's insistence on talking back, or a moody pre-teen's newfound hobby of brooding in anger. And every parent has asked the simple question: how can I avoid meltdowns and create more peace at home? While most parenting strategies are designed to coerce your kids to change, Parenting Without Power Struggles does something innovative, and focuses on where parents actually have real control: within themselves. When parents learn to keep their cool and parent from a strong and durable connection, they become able to help their children navigate the challenging moments of growing up. Family therapist Susan Stiffelman has shown thousands of parents how to be the confident 'captain of the ship' in their children's lives. Based on her successful practice and packed with real-life stories, Susan shares proven strategies and clear insights to motivate kids to cooperate and connect, making Parenting Without PowerStruggles an extraordinary guidebook for transforming your day-to-day parenting life.

Combining John Rosemond's most popular works "Parent Power" and "The Six Point Plan" in one volume, this is the complete parenting philosophy of one of America's foremost experts in the field. This new edition contains updated and revised material and joins the content of both of the original books.

It takes more than love to be an authentically powerful parent. This book begins with the paradox that parents are less powerful than they want to be and more powerful than they realize. Knowing how you are totally powerless actually opens the pathway to discovering where your greatest influence lies. Once you understand and accept the Cosmic Design of your children's hard wiring you are free to give up the struggle of trying to change them. This book will help you unclench your resistance in needing others to behave in certain ways in order to feel fulfilled or happy. What is Meant By Your Child's Cosmic Design? * Temperament * Emotional Hard Wiring * Brain Circuitry and Learning Style * The Intention of Their Soul * Energetic Interplay with Universal Forces Just as you wonder if you have any control at all, this book invites you to unlock the amazing extent of your true power. You will discover your ability to affect abundant, authentic relationships as a new code of communication is clarified for you. What Does this New Code of Communication Look Like? * Shifting Belief Systems that Keep You Stuck and Worried * Changing Your Inner Dialogue for Amazing Positive Results * Trading Ego Thinking, Nagging and Lecturing into Wise Council and Authentic Appreciation * Turning Self-Defeating Patterns into Healthy, Positive Discipline * Integrating Feelings, Energy and Spirit into Daily Challenges You cannot control the school system, the government, your extended family or ultimately, your child's important life choices. You can learn when and how to step in without creating power struggles or emotional upheavals. Your starting point is in the moment that you decide to nurture an environment of unconditional love, trust, compassion and open communication. No one does it perfectly but if we are to get positive results, we must parent with deliberate intention. All your power is in the NOW. When you order your copy of Authentic Parenting Power you step into a place of empowerment because you make the conscious choice to learn, to grow and to actually be the parent you have dreamed of being.

“An encyclopedic exploration of the most effective methods for giving children the courage to realize their full potential.” — ADELE FABER, author of How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk WINNER: Nautilus Book Award, Foreword Indies Award, Independent Publishers Book Award, Readers Choice Award, National Indie Excellence Award and Family Choice Award. NEW TOOLS AND A GROUNDBREAKING FORMULA FOR SOLVING VIRTUALLY ANY PARENTING CHALLENGE WITHOUT PUNISHMENTS, REWARDS OR BRIBERY. ParentShift is an award-winning book that marries modern research and science with the work of some of the greatest child psychologists of our time. The advice, which applies to children of any age, is built into a flexible, common-sense approach. Unlike any other parenting book on the market, ParentShift transforms families by showing parents precisely how to solve short-term challenges, prevent long-term problems and build strong relationships with kids — all at the same time. In this book, readers will learn to: • Respond thoughtfully to outbursts and tantrums. • Set age-appropriate limits and boundaries. • Prepare children to meet life’s challenges. • Ensure kids become strong boundary-setters. • Curtail power struggles and sibling rivalry. • Move beyond timeouts, reward charts and other outdated tactics. • Build open, trusting parent-child bonds that keep kids turning to parents, instead of peers, for guidance.