Making Love, Playing Power; Men, Women, and the Rewards of Intimate Justice brings the cutting edge of relationship therapy to the mass market. Family therapist and organizational consultant Ken Dolan-Del Vecchio debunks superficial theories about communication styles and gender roles as he gets to the real reason so many relationships are in trouble - misuse of power. The reason that men dont listen to women is not because men cant understand what women say. Men dont listen because they can get away with it. Dolan-Del Vecchio reveals how gender, race, sexual orientation, and money set the foundation for personal power, and how power as domination drives most conflicts whether between nations, interest groups, or individuals. What this kind of power never gets anybody, though, is the one thing we all want most - love. Within the field of family therapy, Ken Dolan-Del Vecchios work fuels a growing recognition of fairness as a necessary condition for healing troubled relationships. Men, Women, Love, and Power; Building Couple Partnerships in the 21st Century brings this cutting edge of family therapy to the self-help market. It shows the reader how to solve relationship problems by doing the following; treating one another respectfully listening responsibly selecting the best information sources choosing helping professionals wisely sharing authority and responsibilities fairlyIn a conversational style, Men, Women, Love, and Power draws the reader into a one-on-one dialogue about their relationship. The well-organized format features many chapter subheadings and bulleted lists. Each chapter concludes with ''action steps for men, women, and couples, helping the reader transform understanding into immediate results. Most relationship-help books focus on communication, the talking couples do (or dont do) with one another and the typical conflicts that result. This book digs deeper to show that the changes most couples seek require mutual respect and fairness. Dolan-Del Vecchio shows how these factors set the foundation for all else that happens, including communication. Examples make this connection crystal clear and give the reader new ways of tackling joint decision-making, housework, childcare, grocery shopping, and the activities that keep a couple connected to friends and family. When mutual respect and fairness provide the foundation for a couples partnership, communication falls into place. Making Love, Playing Power reveals how ways of the world that most of us take for granted create conflicts that confuse and exhaust many couples. The book shows how physical, economic, political, emotional, and spiritual power influence the course of couple partnerships, and describes how gender, race, sexual orientation and money shape the power each of us holds and the choices we face every day of our lives.

Making Love, Playing Power: Men, Women, and the Rewards of Intimate Justice brings the cutting edge of relationship therapy to the mass market. Family therapist and organizational consultant Ken Dolan-Del Vecchio debunks superficial theories about communication styles and gender roles as he gets to the real reason so many relationships are in trouble — misuse of power. Making Love, Playing Power reveals how gender, race, sexual orientation, and money set the foundation for personal power, and how power as domination drives most conflicts whether between nations, interest groups, or individuals. Women will find Making Love, Playing Power uniquely inspiring and validating. Men will find it life-changing. This book shows how to reject the power of domination and realize the power of love. Dolan-Del Vecchio offers new and provocative “principles of love,” memorable case examples, and “action steps” that help readers make changes that bring lasting love.

"[A] comprehensive, critical, empirical, and practical compilation of investigations about how diverse couples are trying to implement change and pursue equality in their relationships." -Katherine R. Allen, PhD Virginia Polytechnic Institute & State University "[A] true gift to couple researchÖ.The studies reported in this marvelously disciplined collection hold living implications for couples and their therapists." -Evan Imber-Black Director, Center for Families and Health, Ackerman Institute for the Family While numerous couples strive for equality in their relationships, many are unaware of the insidious ways in which gender and power still affect them-from their career choices to communication patterns, child-rearing, housework, and more. Written for mental health professionals and others interested in contemporary couple relationships, this research-based book shows how couples are able to move beyond the dangers of gendered inequality and the legacy of hidden male power. The book analyzes the relationships of couples from various racial, ethnic, and socioeconomic backgrounds. The contributors present innovative clinical interventions, and suggest strategies therapists can use to help couples transform their relationships from being gender-based to equality-based. Explores these key issues: The risks of being in a relationship ruled by "gender legacy" behavior The differences between couples who get caught in gender legacy patterns and those who do not Gender-based patterns across the life cycle, including newly formed couples; early marriage; child-rearing; mothering and fathering Gendered power in couples dealing with illness; ethnic and racial differences; immigration and displacement issues

The God who set aside power in order to live out love--fully expressing that love on Calvary's tree--is at the core of the Christian message to the world. Yet in the centuries since Christ's refusal to yield to Satan's temptation to establish his kingdom through economic, political, and religious power, the Church has struggled to make the same refusal. In Choose Love Not Power, scholar, activist, and modern-day prophet Tony Campolo explores the relationship between love and power, beginning with an examination of Jesus' life and working toward a "theology of power" for Christians today. He surveys the implications of choosing love over power when it comes to the global community's most pressing issues--environmental degradation, economic inequality and instability, and perpetual war. Dr. Campolo suggests that the choice between love and power begins close to home: Christ-followers who choose love over power in marriage and in parenting will likewise opt for love in their churches, communities, and governments. The growing number of believers seeking a more authentically Christlike way to be Christian in a diverse, pluralistic society will be challenged and encouraged by this unflinching look at Jesus's example of love.

A leading text for courses that go beyond the basics of family systems theory, intervention techniques, and diversity, this influential work has now been significantly revised with 65% new material. The volume explores how family relationships--and therapy itself--are profoundly shaped by race, social class, gender, religion, sexual orientation, and other intersecting dimensions of marginalization and privilege. Chapters from leading experts guide the practitioner to challenge assumptions about family health and pathology, understand the psychosocial impact of oppression, and tap into clients' cultural resources for healing. Practical clinical strategies are interwoven with theoretical insights, case examples, training ideas, and therapists' reflections on their own cultural and family legacies. New to This Edition *Existing chapters have been thoroughly updated and 21 chapters added, expanding the perspectives in the book. *Reflects over a decade of theoretical and clinical advances and the growing diversity of the United States. *New sections on re-visioning clinical research, trauma and psychological homelessness, and larger systems.

Using revealing stories from complex situations he has been involved in all over the world - the Middle East, South Africa, Europe, India, Guatemala, the Philippines, Australia, Canada and the United States - Kahane reveals how to dynamically balance power and love....